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Once Upon a Quarter-Life

Shortly before my birthday every year, I remember my two frustrations and declare them out loud, as if the reality of hearing them will motivate me:

1. Wow, I am X years old this year, and I have yet to lose Y+5 pounds! Now, do I really want to be X years old and still complaining about my weight?
2. I am X years old and still unpublished. Boo. I want to sign my name inside books.

This year, upon the quarter-life crisis, these two thoughts inevitably resurfaced sooner rather than later. However, a bunch of other thoughts joined them, and not all of them are negative.

First of all, on the quarter-life crisis kerfuffle, I think it was really helpful that I read an article a while back and it put things in perspective. It was also nice to know that a lot of people feel the same way I do. It is actually a good thing that many of us work in offices everyday but dream of volunteering in developing countries – it shows that we have options. The article argued that it is simply because we have so many options ahead of us at this age today than even 30 years ago, that we feel as conflicted as we do. Society no longer has expectations of us when we hit our twenties (i.e. marriage & children), and people tend to stay in school longer and advance further in their education. So all of a sudden, this has become a generation of people who have so many options on what to do next that nothing is super-satisfying, and nothing is the “right” choice anymore. I know I definitely feel that way. I have a good job that I’m interested in, I have interests and passions outside of work, I want to make a difference in people’s lives, and I want to go back to school at some point too. Trying to do all this in my twenties would be impossible, but at the same time I feel pulled in many directions because they’re all viable options. So while I’m following through on option A, I can’t help but wonder what’s like if I were doing option B, C, or D. Oh, and did I forget to plot out an option E? I know it’s silly to whine about having too many options, but still…

Another thing I did this year was I recounted backwards the first half of my 20’s. So far, so good, and it made me happier to realize that I have done a lot already and if things can only get better (which they definitely should under my watch, ha), then I can be much happier about this milestone birthday. Before I turned 20, I had only been to 6 countries, including the two I have lived in. I spent my 20th birthday away from home (the first time ever), and caught the travel bug in England. From there, I have added 9 more countries, lots more cities, and countless memories and experiences as a traveller. I have had some interesting work experience, too, and I finally got myself my own car and even a condo (who would’ve thought?!)…so really, so far, so good.

I really think that by thinking back to what I’ve already done was an even more motivating exercise to prompt me to want to do more with my life, instead of all the negative “lose more weight” stuff. It just makes me feel like I’ve got so much more room to make things better without trying too hard ;)

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A Better Quality of Life

Before I went off to university, I never gave Vancouver much thought other than associate the word “home” with the name. It was normal for my friends to discuss upcoming ski/snowboard trips to Whistler, Grouse, Sun Peaks, etc., and it was normal for us to share camping stories from Cultus, the Okanagan, and “the Island”. We skipped classes and drove down to the beach as early as Spring Break (note: not March Break) and ate ice cream along the boardwalk. During the summers we took buses and the Skytrain to Kits Beach, Jericho Beach, or Second Beach and hung out with the “cool people” in downtown Vancouver. Most of all, I looked around daily and saw mountains in the near distance.

My first summer back from London, I drove the same familiar route down to White Rock with my sister and mom in tow. The whole way down, I couldn’t help but exclaim every few minutes, “but look how green!” or “the mountains!”…I finally looked around and began to appreciate just how beautiful Vancouver really is. Right then and there (since it was summer), I forgave it for raining and staying a permanent shade of gray for weeks at a time during the winter.

These days, my favourite things about Vancouver when I visit are:

Gus: the furry, soft, dopey, loving dog that loved me the most when we first adopted him.

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The mountains: from a distance or from atop, they complete the city that I have come to adore.

The colours: on a sunny day, Vancouver is one of the most colourful cities. It’s not a loud lushness like Hawai’i, but rather a quiet harmony of colours that are very “Canadian” – likeable, a little shy/conservative, beautiful in its own way.

Every time I bring up Vancouver in discussions with colleagues or friends in Toronto, there are always wistful sighs all around. I truly believe that the essence that is “Vancouver” contributes to a better quality of life – how can it not when you look around and fall a little more in love with the city you live in everyday?

I always hold up Vancouver as a sort of golden standard for the quality of life and the type of city I would like to live in. Everything I miss about it, I look for in my next city. I don’t know what it is, but I feel like I’m not ready to return yet – so I will look for bits and pieces that remind me of this place I love. Toronto is only a stop in my journeys, and it is nothing like home. I hope to have many more stops in the future, and continue to dream that each and every one of them will be more and more like Vancouver, until one day when I finally get to stop there, or even turn it into a final destination.

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We took a day trip out to the south of Taiwan with my godparents and my godbrother Norman. My mom suggested Lugang, and none of us are really sure why she chose this place. I vaguely recall saying it’d be nice to photograph some temples as it’s such a big part of everyday life here, but I had no idea what I was in for.

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Being a long weekend here in Taiwan, it was really busy in one of the bigger and more famous temples. By the time we were done sticking incense into different pots (are they called pots?) I was sure that whatever gods were supposed to be listening wouldn’t understand me amidst my violent choking and sniffling fits. Imagine very still, humid air full of incense smoke. See the picture above of my godmother lost in smoke for an illustration.

Lugang is one of the oldest cities in Taiwan, and loosely translated it means Deer Port – which is exactly what this port did/does: they export deer antlers. We thankfully opted out of visiting any deer farms. Instead, we went through the old streets and the main tourist street was surprisingly beautiful, clean, and very well preserved. It really felt like stepping back into history when we were in the alley, but I’m sure the street’s actually cleaner than it would’ve been 50 years ago.

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There were also artisans making wooden toys, string lanterns, and blown candy! We had to try, of course.

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From the touristy spots, we moved off to the actual ports to have oysters, only to discover the port smelled revoltingly like oysters and seaweed and everything scary. The worst part was, there were flies everywhere. One day I might go into detail about “How Alex and Sandy Fought Off 1 Million Flies and Their Eggs” in England, but this was definitely an incidence where those flies reincarnated to attack Sandy in Taiwan, in a wide open space where she cannot duck for cover or simply hide behind a closed door (other than running back screaming into the car parked on the other side of town).

We managed to find a tourist-friendly place that served the oysters without being too close to the smells (but a barefoot waitress served us, how sanitary). I could not eat if you paid me $1,000, having just seen the flies and experienced the smells. So we continued on to another town that’s not a port, that’s famous for lamb. On the way there, we experienced chicken manure smells at its best. Let it be known that I am not a fan of towns that smell like manure exploded in my face!!

Anyway, it was a really fun day, and on the way back we have made plans to go to Kenting (south of Taiwan) when we go back to Taiwan next – with Julia & Alex, too, of course. Yay!

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